Emotional intelligence (EQ) involves self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills, all crucial in navigating addiction challenges. Recently, I heard a speaker, Sarah, share her story. I thought she applied emotional intelligence well:

For years, Sarah struggled with alcoholism. Ups and downs marked her journey, but a turning point came when she began to understand her emotions better. Sarah recognized the emotions that triggered her drinking, such as anxiety and feelings of inadequacy. This awareness was her first step towards change.

Knowing her triggers, Sarah worked on self-regulation. When overwhelmed, she'd go for a walk or write in her journal. Sarah’s motivation was her daughter. Remembering her daughter's words, "I want my mom back," became a source of strength. She visualized a healthier future with her loved ones, keeping her focused on her goal.

Joining a support group at her church, Sarah developed empathy by listening to others. She understood she wasn't alone and offered support, strengthening her resolve. This connection with others provided her with a sense of community. She also learned to communicate her struggles to family and friends, asking for help when needed. She set boundaries and built stronger relationships with those who supported her sobriety.

One evening, the challenge came. At a family gathering, she was offered her favorite drink, a mimosa. The old urge hit hard, but Sarah paused, recognized her rising anxiety, and remembered her tools. She excused herself, took a moment to call a friend, and recalled her daughter's face and the life she was rebuilding. This moment was a victory, a testament to her emotional growth and resilience.

Sarah's journey wasn't easy, but her enhanced emotional intelligence became her shield and guide, leading her through the most challenging times to a path of long-lasting sobriety.

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