Realize you’re not alone. Millions of people are currently trying to kick a bad habit. Early in sobriety, it was hard for me to connect with others. It might have been my ego or pride, but I would go to recovery meetings and not say a word. It wasn’t until I started sharing that people wanted to be part of my life. That felt good; all I had to do was tell my truth.

I remember one time at a recovery meeting, I talked about not wanting to come. A couple of hours before the meetings, I had an urge to drink but walked the two miles in the cold to this meeting instead. It so happened that night someone else was reluctant to come too. My vulnerability resonated with him, and we became friends.

Two weeks later, I went to a company holiday party that I was required to attend. For someone in recovery, parties can be triggers, and this was my first time being around people drinking excessively. As the alcohol flowed and people raged, I was able to check in with my new friend from the meeting. He kept me company, texting back and forth; it felt great not to go through that alone.

Sometimes, we have to be patient, and sometimes, we have to speak up. If you’re attending events with others in recovery, share your story. You’ll probably help someone else just as much as someone can help you. Spend time with others in recovery. Share your beliefs and experiences, and learn from theirs.

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