Living a sober life means, unfortunately, to let go of many past relationships. You’ll need to depart with those who contributed to the destruction of substance abuse and addictive behaviors. It’s time to evaluate everyone to ensure they’re healthy for your present and future.

Unhealthy relationships feature manipulation, disrespect, and a lack of communication. You might feel constantly undervalued, criticized, or emotionally drained in such relationships. There’s usually a significant power imbalance, with one person dominating or controlling the other. Neglect can also occur, where emotional or physical needs are consistently ignored. Does anyone like that? It's time to think seriously about their value.

In contrast, healthy relationships are grounded in mutual respect, trust, and open communication. They are characterized by support, understanding, and the ability to express oneself without fear of judgment or retaliation. Healthy relationships are balanced, with both parties contributing equally to the relationship. There’s a sense of safety and security where both individuals feel comfortable being authentic.

To avoid unhealthy relationships, it’s crucial to be aware of red flags like excessive jealousy, controlling behavior, or a lack of respect for boundaries. Cultivate self-awareness and trust your instincts; if something feels off, it probably is.

Before starting a new friendship in sobriety, consider honesty, respect, empathy, and understanding. Ask yourself questions like: Does this person respect my sobriety and support my recovery? Do they encourage open and honest communication? Are they understanding and patient? Do our values align?

Relationships in sobriety should contribute positively to your journey, offering support and stability rather than presenting triggers or challenges to your recovery.