Denial is like noise-canceling headphones: you can’t hear or pay attention to what’s happening around you. This doesn’t mean it’s not happening; you ignore it. But blocking the reality of a situation doesn’t make it go away. In fact, it often leads to more significant problems over time, issues that could have been avoided if we dared to face them head-on.

Denial stems from thinking, “I’ve got this under control” or “I’m not like those other people.” It’s like they’re trying to convince themselves everything is fine when it’s not. They might downplay how much they're using or its impact on life, relationships, jobs, you name it.

The first step in confronting denial is usually a reality check. I remember a friend giving me some straight talk, “Justin, if you want to change your life, then change yourself because you’re the biggest problem in your life.” Wow. That hit me hard, but I needed it. We require that friend who’s going to give us the straight talk. I’ll never forget my friend’s harsh words that day, but I also appreciate him caring enough to give it to me directly.

Look in the mirror and be honest with yourself. What’s happening? This is your moment of empowerment, your chance to take control. Don’t be in denial. Tell the truth about yourself (to yourself). Acknowledge your actions and their effects on your life.

Take small steps; it’s not easy. Shed the coat of denial so you can feel lighter. It’s a tricky path to walk, but it’s worth it. Explore areas where you may have been in denial. Confronting denial is a decisive step toward authenticity.